By Funke Akindele
Let’s stop sugarcoating.
You can marry beauty.
You can marry brains.
You can marry potential.
But if she’s stubborn, difficult, and disrespectful?
You didn’t marry a partner—you married a problem.
Because marriage doesn’t collapse from outside enemies.
It collapses when the war lives in your house.
Let’s break it down:
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1. Stubborn Women Don’t Grow—They Repeat
Try to correct her?
She digs in.
Try to show her a better way?
She doubles down.
She’d rather sink the ship than admit she’s steering it wrong.
And the worst part?
Her pride becomes your prison.
You’re not leading a wife.
You’re babysitting a rebel in designer heels.
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2. Difficult Women Drain the Atmosphere
Every dinner becomes drama.
Every outing becomes tension.
Every suggestion becomes a debate.
She thinks difficulty makes her “strong.”
But here’s the truth:
Strong women build peace.
Difficult women break it.
And a man who comes home to chaos…
Will eventually stop coming home at all.
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3. Disrespect Is the Death of Masculinity
A man can survive mistakes.
He can survive failure.
He can survive struggle.
But he cannot survive constant disrespect.
– Talk down to him in public?
You shrink him.
– Roll your eyes at his vision?
You weaken him.
– Mock him when he’s vulnerable?
You kill him.
Respect is oxygen.
Take it away—and don’t be surprised when he suffocates silently.
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4. A Marriage Without Honor Is Just a Contract
A stubborn woman won’t bend.
A difficult woman won’t adapt.
A disrespectful woman won’t submit.
Together?
They don’t create marriage.
They create a battlefield.
And on a battlefield, love is the first casualty.
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Final Word: Men Don’t Leave Because They’re Weak. They Leave Because They’re Worn Out.
Marriage is not for the stubborn, difficult, or disrespectful woman.
Not for the one who:
– Argues for sport
– Treats correction as an insult
– Confuses dishonor with independence
Because a man doesn’t need perfection.
He needs peace.
He needs respect.
He needs a woman who multiplies his leadership instead of mocking it.
So ladies—if submission feels like slavery, and respect feels optional?
Don’t get married.
Because you don’t want a husband.
You want a hostage.
